Love (and Good Couples Therapy) Is All You Need.

“Love is all you need”. Ha! If only it were that easy.

Relationship is the single most powerful resource available to humans, but it is also where we can get most easily lost. And for good reason! Your person is the place where all of the unconscious material, the attachment wounds from childhood, the old buried hurts, all the deep fears and insecurities are going to show themselves. This is great news, actually! If we can find them we can heal them.

In the midst of difficulty, it can feel like the intensity we feel with our partner during conflict is THE barrier to our health, growth and well-being but with the right support this same energy can be channelled for deep healing and transformation.

It ain’t easy folks. You’re having a hard time because it is hard to do relationship well if you have had no training, no informed knowledge, no practice doing it skillfully, and no good guidance along the way.

And all of this is doubly hard if you or your partner deal with physical or mental health challenges, unresolved trauma, or chronic stress. In that case, working with a somatic trauma therapist who specializes in couples work can be a really good investment of time and money. We understand this. We can help.

At Mend, we will support you and your partner to:

• Identify the patterns where you get stuck so that real change can happen

• Team up together so that you and your partner are united against the real enemy: the disconnection that’s killing you both

• Create an environment of compassion for your whole family

• Learn how to transform your conflict into connection

• Gain confidence in yourself, your partner and the strength of your relationship

• Feel, express and generate more connection, love and intimacy for a vibrant, beautiful, rich life

Our ideal clients have deep love for their partner, are coming to relationship with strong egalitarian ethics, are committed to each other (whatever that looks like in your relationship), truly want the relationship to work and are willing to look at their own role and responsibility here. If this is you but in spite of all that strength, you still feel like you are struggling to create a healthy, emotionally safe relationship full of vitality and connection, make an appointment. Let’s get started. Let’s not waste any more time.